Holiday traditions encourage families to get together to celebrate with distant relatives—including aunts, uncles, grandparents, and in-laws. This is an opportunity to catch up with one another and find out how everyone in your family has been doing since you were last together.
Family get-togethers are also a suitable occasion to recognize when something isn’t quite right. This season provides a short window of opportunity for intervention when someone is crying out for help from elder abuse.
In this article, we aim to spread awareness about elder abuse during this holiday season by covering:
Elder abuse is when a trusted caregiver knowingly or negligently takes advantage of an elder—it can include physical or sexual abuse—or take another form, such as:
The elderly tend to be more vulnerable to abuse than other adults. That’s because there is a gradual decline in physical strength and mental acuity as we age. Many of our elders also depend on caregivers to help with day-to-day functioning.
According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, as many as one in ten adults over the age of 60 may become a victim of elder abuse. And only around 1 in 23 cases of elder abuse are reported to authorities. With such a high incidence, it’s critical to know what to look for to spot elder abuse.
Doctors often screen for signs of elder abuse during regular visits, and the ACOG recommends that OBGYNs screen all patients over the age of 60 for signs of abuse.
But doctors are not the only ones who can recognize the signs of abuse. When you meet with your loved ones this holiday season, look deeper at any red flags that grab your attention.
For example, if your grandpa shows up to Christmas dinner with teeth missing from his dentures and unkempt hair, you might begin to look for other signs that he is not receiving proper care. If your aunt, who takes care of grandpa, has a shiny new car out of the blue and a bad attitude toward grandpa—that’s worth investigating further.
Here are some other signs to look out for:
If you notice any of these signs, it’s worth investigating whether your family member has become a victim of elder abuse. Talking to your loved one directly about the red flags may not be enough to get them the help they need—so what can you do to get real help if you suspect elder abuse?
Our elders deserve protection. If you suspect elder abuse, the best course of action is to report it to authorities, who are trained to investigate this type of situation. You can report suspected abuse to a number of agencies, including:
The National Center on Elder Abuse website has state-specific resources for you to contact the right professionals in order to get help in your region.
If you’re not sure whether your loved one is suffering from abuse, you can encourage your elder to see his or her doctor, who will do an elder abuse screening. Physicians are mandated reporters, which means that they must report suspected abuse to authorities.
Sadly, elder abuse is not an uncommon occurrence. But the good news is that everyone has the ability to do their part to help stop the abuse. Simply reporting any suspicions to the proper authorities may be enough to put an end to elder abuse.
My Virtual Physician prioritizes protecting vulnerable populations and can help with the reporting process. Contact us today if you or a loved one needs help.
